They expected me to prepare 20 dishes for one birthday celebration. When I said I couldn’t do it, my husband gave me an ultimatum. I quietly made my decision.

“Twenty dishes. Not nineteen. Twenty.”

Linda Mercer tapped the handwritten menu against my chest like a court order. For her fifty-fifth birthday, she had decided twenty-three relatives would celebrate at our house in suburban Columbus, Ohio.

I scanned the list: roast beef, glazed ham, baked salmon, shrimp casserole, three kinds of potatoes, macaroni and cheese, green beans, corn pudding, stuffing, biscuits, two salads, deviled eggs, four desserts, and more.