I flew across the country to surprise my son. Instead, I found him and his twins struggling through winter. That day, I made a decision.

Melissa actually looked pleased.

“Seeking treatment for stress is not evidence that you were dangerous. Properly presented, it may demonstrate that you recognized pressure and sought help responsibly.”

Over the following weeks, I rented Daniel a modest three-bedroom apartment in Evanston, close enough to the boys’ existing routines that nobody could reasonably claim he was trying to relocate them.