PART 3
On Sunday morning, I walked into a quiet coffee shop in the neighborhood of Bloomington to meet with Jessica and Heather. We did not look like three women connected by the same abusive man.
Jessica was forty years old, worked as an administrator, and arrived carrying a perfectly organized blue plastic binder. Heather was a thirty-seven year old nurse with short hair who looked like she was apologizing just by standing in the room.
Sarah Jenkins took the seat directly across from us at the table.
“Before we begin going through the documents,” Sarah said, “I want you all to know that no one is obligated to share more than they feel comfortable revealing.”
Jessica immediately placed her blue folder flat on the table.
“I want to share everything I have,” Jessica said clearly.
She opened the cover. Brandon had been her partner seven long years ago, starting off as a charming, attentive, and generous partner, exactly as he had been with me.
Then the extreme possessiveness began, followed by constant phone searches, verbal insults, requests for loans, and eventual physical violence. Jessica had never reported the abuse to the police back then, but she had saved every financial record.
“He forced me to sign several legal forms, claiming they were simple applications for a personal loan,” Jessica explained to the group. “Months later, I discovered he used my credit profile for unauthorized transactions and left me with thousands in tax debt.”
She pulled out bank statements, wire transfers, forged signatures, and printed copies of old emails. Heather took a deep breath before sharing her story.
“It was slightly different in my case,” Heather recalled softly.
She had dated Brandon for just over a year. When she finally attempted to end the relationship, he began aggressively stalking her every move.
He would show up outside her hospital workplace at all hours, send fifty threatening text messages in a single night, and once broke into her apartment to destroy her personal belongings. Heather had tried to file a police report at the time, but the officers dismissed her claims.
“They literally asked me why I did not look scared enough in front of them,” Heather said, her voice dropping lower.
Sarah pressed her lips together tightly and made a quick note in her pad. I looked down at my own folder sitting on the wood surface.
For months, I had carried the heavy belief that my painful story was just a private failure. Now I sat directly across from two women who had heard the exact same manipulative phrases.
“You are completely crazy.” “Nobody is ever going to believe your story.” “You provoked me to do this.” “You are absolutely nothing without me.”
He had even used identical phrasing across different years. Jessica tapped a file on her phone and played an old voice message from him.
“I am the one who decides when this relationship ends,” Brandon’s voice boomed through the small speaker.
My skin crawled as I listened, recognizing the identical phrasing from my own audio files. Sarah placed all three compiled timelines side by side on the table.
The matched dates revealed an even more disturbing pattern of behavior. Brandon had started pursuing me just a few short months after ending his harassment of Heather.