I arrived expecting a seat with my family. Instead, my sister laughed and Mom pointed toward the exit. They never expected my response.

“Oops, we forgot your seat,” my sister Lauren giggled.

For a second, I thought she was joking.

We were inside the private dining room at Bellamy House, an upscale restaurant outside Boston, where thirty relatives had gathered for my mother’s sixtieth birthday.

Every chair around the long table had a gold place card.